About ENM.life

ENM.life is an independent news and culture publication dedicated to documenting how people build love beyond monogamy. Founded by in October 2025, it aims to become a "news source of record" blending journalism, research, and lived experience to explore the ethics, language, and culture of consensual non-monogamy.

ENM.life is curated, contextual, and human: because intentional relationships deserve better than an algorithm.

ENM.Life’s Mission and Vision

The 2 a.m. Moment
We’ve all had the 2 a.m. moment. We wake up one night to realize the fairytale promise of “The One” is starting to feel too small for the world we actually live in. There’s got to be a better way, you tell yourself. And there is.

ENM.life was built for that moment: to tell the stories that show how love, ethics, and freedom can coexist.

Ethical Non-Monogamy and the 3 C’s

Ethical Non-Monogamy is a relationship style where all partners openly and consensually agree to have more than one romantic or sexual relationship at a time. It rests on three simple principles: Consent, Communication, and Compassion; the 3 C’s that transform theory into trust.editor@enm.life

The Lucky 13

This is the ENM.Life Compact. This is what we believe and how we hold ourselves accountable.

At ENM.Life, we believe ...

Ethics & Foundations

  1. Consent is not optional. If it is not an enthusiastic yes, it is a firm no. Full stop.
  2. Transparency means no secrets. “They do not have to know” is not polyamory; it is cheating. Honesty is the foundation of trust.
  3. Compassion is our courage. We face truth with kindness and lead with empathy because only compassion makes bravery worth it.
  4. Monogamy is not the enemy. We walk a different relationship path, not a higher one, and every consensual form of love deserves respect.

Story & Language

  1. Language shapes liberation. We report with care, reject shame, challenge stigma, and give voice to those too often spoken about instead of with.
  2. Stories deserve stewardship. We honor those who share their lives with us by telling their stories with accuracy, context, and care.
  3. Context is care. We choose depth and accuracy over speed, knowing that empathy and evidence must move together when telling hard truths.

Community & Accountability

  1. Collaboration creates community. We listen first, publish second, and learn always; community is something we build together.
  2. Every voice matters. We commit to allyship that includes all identities, experiences, and bodies because love deserves no gate.
  3. We do not yuck another’s yum. We celebrate healthy, consensual pleasure and the full diversity of desire with curiosity over judgment and consent over shame.

Autonomy & Abundance

  1. Your relationships are yours to design. Who you love and how you love is your choice; autonomy is the heart of ethics.
  2. Visibility is power, and accountability keeps it honest. We stand with the movement to ensure ethical non-monogamy is seen, respected, and protected, and when we fall short, we own it publicly.
  3. Love is abundant. Every story we tell begins and ends with that truth.

Who is Behind ENM.Life?

ENM.life is written, edited, and published under the pseudonym Harper J. Lincoln, a pen name created to keep the work focused on stories, not the storyteller. Harper speaks as editor-in-chief and founder, representing the voice and values of ENM.life. The name may be a construct, but the curiosity, conviction, and care behind it are real. The business that supports ENM.life is managed separately, so the journalism can stay independent.

What's Next?

ENM.life will grow over the coming months with daily briefs, events, expanded glossary and statistics sections, and interviews spotlighting the evolving language of love and ethics.

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  • Trust is earned. We publish transparently, correct publicly, and welcome accountability. Did we goof? Let us know.
  • Reach out — Got a question, criticism, or great idea? Write to editor@enm.life (you will get a reply)

ENM.Life is Your Beacon of Trust

With a vision of “heart(s) over hype,” ENM.Life documents and celebrates the diverse ways people practice Ethical Non-Monogamy. We earn trust through honest reporting, open conversation, and a commitment to context over clickbait.

Stand with us. Help us rewrite the narrative of love that includes every truth.

At your service,
Harper J. Lincoln
Editor | ENM.life |  editor@enm.life