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The Quiet, Radical Normalcy of Polyamory

Abby Moss lives in a triad that works: three adults, two cats, and one steady rhythm of care. Her story is a reminder that polyamory isn’t rebellion. It’s routine.

Harper J. Lincoln, Editor

31 Oct 2025 — 1 min read

Three pairs of shoes, one shared doorway: the singular rhythm of love in plural form.

Source: PopSugar Published February 25, 2025

Summary: In this PopSugar essay, Abby Moss pushes back on the idea that polyamory is just a trend, a fad, or a social experiment. She writes about her life with two partners who met just before the pandemic era began: a triad that survived distance, family introductions, and the slow work of learning to live as three.

Why This Matters: What makes this essay especially endearing is how wonderfully normal it all feels. Not flashy, not chaotic. Just quiet dinners, shared chores, and two cats who already act like everyone belongs there.

Moss gives space to the nuance, too. She highlights other ENM relationship styles like solo poly and kitchen table poly (KTP), while making it clear that polyamory shouldn’t be used just to hold onto someone. It’s not a quick fix or a trend. It’s just one way love can look.

Quiet normalcy. What a radical idea.

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"I'm all for celebrating different kinds of relationships and different kinds of love. Representation matters, and the more polyamory is talked about, hopefully, the more polyamorous people will feel able to live out in the open." - Abby Moss

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