Reply to the Diarist: When Rain and Deaire Combine
A week of rain, sex, and rare self-awareness. A woman in an open relationship finds desire without losing her center, and shows how honesty can make even the wildest choices steadier.
Source: The Cut, Sex Diaries
Published: 2025-11-21
Summary:
This week’s diarist is a 27-year-old account manager living in Brooklyn. She’s in an open relationship that feels relaxed and rooted in real care. Her days are full of job interviews and the challenges of a drafty apartment. Her nights are spent with the person she has loved for eight years.
When she meets Augustus on Tinder, things move quickly. Rain becomes the soundtrack. The chemistry is there, spilling into corners, ferry benches, and the space under her umbrella.
(It's a sex diary, so you know what happens next. It's hot AF.)
But none of this takes her away from her partner, Jordan. If anything, it shows how solid they really are. He listens without flinching, makes her dinner, and stays steady while she explores something new. She is clear about what she wants. She does not call herself polyamorous, and she knows she doesn’t have room in her life for more committed partners. That honesty keeps the whole story grounded, even as the heat rises.
My Reply to the Diarist
Diarist, you wrote with such a steady kind of honesty that I found myself nodding the whole way through. The way you explain the difference between being in an ***open relationship*** and being ***polyamorous*** is rare, and beautifully done. You know what you want and desire, what your life can hold, and you treat both with care.
Brava! (not said ironically)
And the way you talk about you and your husband, Jordan, is ... well, it’s honestly sweet. Two people who love each other, are still hot for each other, and still let the world bring in new energy without losing their connection. That kind of trust is its own kind of erotic.
Seriously, it's both sweet and hot AF.
If I had any advice, it would be to figure out a way you can be honest about your experience with others besides your husband. Yes, some people will rush to slut shame what they don’t understand, but nothing in your story feels careless. It feels human, thoughtful, alive. You’re moving through desire with clarity and heart, and that deserves respect. Not judgment
The ENM Angle:
Open relationships often get reduced to two extremes: total chaos or complete clarity.
But what this diarist shows is something deeper. She’s not chasing multiple loves. She’s just letting herself be curious while staying grounded in the life she already values.
There’s something gentle in the way she talks about limits. She enjoys intensity, but only in small moments. She does not want the weight of a full poly structure. She knows how much she can hold, and she respects it. That kind of self-awareness is a quiet strength. It may not look dramatic, but it is deeply honest.
And the connection she shares with Jordan gives us a glimpse of what open relationships can feel like when they are built on communication and consent. She comes home lit up and a little disoriented, and he meets her with calm instead of criticism. They treat desire like weather. Sometimes soft, sometimes intense. It is not free of jealousy because they are exceptional. It is free of jealousy because they trust the life they are still choosing, again and again.
One-Line Takeaway: When honesty sets the pace, even the rain cannot shake what is real.
